An unfairness i hadn’t thought deeply about
Pregnancy is a long way behind me now, and while i know a little about the problems fat and obese people have trying to be fairly treated by the medical community (who often assume you cannot be BOTH overweight AND healthy), i simply hadn’t thought – much – about the complications of being pregnant while fat. I don’t mean the health complications, i mean the complicated and often upsetting squabbles conversations with doctors and midwives.
I offer this link for you to gawp at, prod, take photos of to show your mates, exclaim at, give sideways looks to, wonder about… and reflect upon. Especially if you still feel it’s weird to be comfortable above the average weight for your height but not at all strange to be comfortable below the average weight. (I say ‘feel’, not ‘think’, because there’s a big interval between getting something, intellectually, and feeling it to be true; i’m still only at the think level, haven’t mastered feel.) But mostly if you are about to believe some doctor who tells you your preferred method of birth or anything else can’t be done. I am schooling my sons that you can’t tell how much someone knows what they’re talking about just by the amount of qualifications they have.